Hypnosis and Relationships – The Mind-Heart Connection

 

Help has arrived for those who wish to improve their relationships any day of the Year

It’s St. Valentine’s Day and for many, it is a day of dread and emotional turmoil.  For many, there is no one to share the celebration of Love with.  For others, it’s a sad reminder of the deterioration of their relationship and even finding a card is a challenge as they don’t “feel the love”.  “All human beings are involved in relationships, often several simultaneously. Whether these relationships involves child-parent, husband-wife, employer-employee, teacher-student, lover-lover, friend-friend or individual-group, relationships can and do develop problems, misunderstandings, differences, changes of feelings or other challenging elements,” says Rosa Livingstone, principal of  A Load Off Your Mind Hypnotherapy in New Westminster, B.C.  “Relationship problems can affect home life, work, education, attitude, and motivation, and even health. Symptoms of relationship discord may include anger, sadness, hurt, and loss of self-esteem, depression and anxiety.  Hypnotherapy can uncover the causes of such problems, getting to the “heart” of the matter and bringing to it the healing power of understanding. Hypnotherapy can eliminate feelings of rejection, hurts, frustration and resentments. Communications can be re-established, confidence reacquired and creative solutions developed.


The clients whom she sees all suffer from compromised self esteem at one level or another.  Some are unable to maintain a relationship.  Others are struggling within a relationship.  The underlying issue is that logically, they are not aware of the cause.  Logically, the mind justifies and gives explanations for their situations such as, “it’s not me, it’s her/him”, “He tells me I’m needy yet I don’t call or email more than a few times a day”, “She’s a great Lady but after a few months, I felt it was time to move to the next level and I didn’t feel the same way anymore”.  The logical part of the mind can explain away anything.  It’s what helps us make sense of our worlds.  However, we live our lives behind an unseen wall of emotional fears and anxieties.  It’s the emotional distress each client presents with that cannot be rationalized. ``It is coming from the subconscious mind, the seat of all our emotions based on our beliefs about ourselves and our World.  This part of our mind is 95% of our functioning.  95% of the time, we are all reacting to old programming learned as a child,`` explains Rosa.


But, the common thread here is fear.  Fear of being judged.  Fear of not being good enough.  Fear of not living up to others expectations.  Fear of speaking our minds.  Fear of disappointment and of disappointing.  Fear of rejection.  And ALL of these fears are based upon a belief compromising self esteem.


In the example of “It’s not me, it’s him”, a client felt that she does everything to make her partner happy.  The underlying issue for her was that she wasn’t good enough.  With her underlying fear of rejection, she overcompensated by trying to be what he wanted at all times.  This is difficult at best but what can often happen is that a person loses their own identity in a relationship.  In this case, she was actually smothering her husband.


Perhaps the most important challenge in relationships is communication. Merely talking things out is an indispensable feature, but it is much more simply said than done. Why? The response is that numerous people do not communicate efficiently. It is not that they don't desire to - they may urgently desire to work out problems, clarify viewpoints, and talk about differences. The difficulty may be that they cannot communicate since even with sensitive ears they cannot hear!


Communication can trigger all sorts of emotional hurts when the hurts are close to the surface.  This causes guards to come up, barriers to be fortified and listening skills to fly out the window. It becomes about self protection and preservation.


Through Rosa`s Hypnotherapy practice, she offers the opportunity for people to heal relationship challenges.  She assists individuals learn to have authentic relationships by helping them to heal from the inside. She offers clients her own non judgemental care and acceptance in the conduction of these sessions and assisting in gaining access to the powerful subconscious mind where true transformations can, and do, occur.

For Information: 

778-238-2427

aloadoffyourmind@telus.net

100 Quotes to Empower and Inspire Women

100 Quotes to Empower and Inspire Women

 

 

Quotes to Empower and Inspire Women benefit all of us, regardless of gender. In most developed or developing countries, women basically have the same rights as men. But despite the wonderful changes in the way our society works, we, women, still have many reservations when it comes to asserting our power and individuality. That is why it’s so important to remember certain quotes to empower and inspire women. It’s as if we are throwing away all the things past women leaders fought for. I think it’s time that we learn to take pride in who and what we are. We are women and we can make a difference in this world. You can begin by taking time to read these quotes to empower and inspire women… to empower and inspire you.

1. Nancy Reagan;  Former First Lady of The United States of America

·         “A woman is like a tea bag: you cannot tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.”

 

This is one of my favorite quotes to empower and inspire women… and it’s so true for many of us!

 

2.      Janis Joplin,; American Singer & Songwriter

 

·         “Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.”

3. Angelina Jolie,;  ActRESS

·         “Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you’re in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that’s the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.”

4.  “Sarah Ban Breathnach;  Author of Simple Abundance

·         Our deepest wishes are whispers of our authentic selves. We must learn to respect them. We must learn to listen.”

5. Judy Garland,; ActRESS & Singer

·         “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”

6. Mother Teresa; Founder of The Order of The Missionaries of Charity

·         “We are all pencils in the hand of God writing love letters to the world.”

7. Laurel Thatcher Ulrich;  Historian of Early America And The History of Women

·         “Well-behaved women rarely make history.”

8. Suzanne Brogger; Danish Novelist And Essayist

·         “If a woman can only succeed by emulating men, I think it is a great loss and not a success. The aim is not only for a woman to succeed, but to keep her womanhood and let her womanhood influence society.”

9. DEBBIE FORD; AUTHOR, SPEAKER AND FOUNDER OF THE FORD INSTITUTE FOR INTEGRATIVE COACHING

·         “Remember, all the answers you need are inside of you; you only have to become quiet enough to hear them.”

10. BENAZIR BHUTTO,; assassinated former PRIME MINISTER OF PAKISTAN,; SPEECH ON SEPTEMBER 4, 1994 ON MALE DOMINATION OF WOMEN

·         “Women became the victims of a culture of exclusion and male dominance. Today more women than men suffer from poverty, deprivation, and discrimination. Half a billion women are illiterate. Seventy percent of the children who are denied elementary education are girls.
The plight of women in the developing countries is unspeakable. Hunger, disease, and unremitting toil is their fate. Weak economic growth and inadequate social support systems affect them most seriously and directly.”

11. Audre Lorde; Caribbean-American Writer, Poet, And Activist

·         “When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.”

12. Anais Nin; French-Cuban Author

·         And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

13. Ruth Gordon; Actror And Writer

·         “Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it with use.”

14. Clementine Paddleford; American Food Writer

·         “Never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone should be.”

15. Lena Horne; Singer, ActrESS, Dancer, And Civil Rights Activist

·         “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.”

16. Alice Walker; American Author, Poet, And Activist

·         “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”

17. Roseanne Barr; ActrESS, Comedian, Writer

·         “The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.”

18. CHER; RECORDING ARTIST, AWARD WINNING ACTRESS, DIRECTOR AND PHILANTHROPIST

·         “Women have to harness their power– it’s absolutely true. It’s just learning not to take the first no. And if you can’t go straight ahead, you go around the corner.” and “Until you’re ready to look foolish, you’ll never have the possibility of being great.”

19. Charlotte Lunsford Berry; Philanthropist

·         “We won’t always know whose lives we touched and made better for our having cared, because actions can sometimes have unforeseen ramifications. What’s important is that you do care and you act.”

20. Joyce Meyer,;Charismatic Christian Author And Speaker

·         “Positive minds produce positive lives. Negative minds produce negative lives. Positive thoughts are always full of faith and hope. Negative thoughts are always full of fear and doubt.”

21. Martha Washington; Wife of George Washington

·         “I’ve learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.”

22. Agnes Repplier; American Essayist

·         “It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.”

 

23. Anne Frank,;Author And One of The Most Renowned Jewish Victims of The Holocaust

·         “We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”

24. Jackie J oyner-Kersee; Retired American Athlete

·                  “Age is no barrier. It’s a limitation you put on your mind.”

25. Mary Manin Morrissey; New Thought Minister

·         “Don’t wait for something big to occur. Start where you are, with what you have, and that will always lead you into something greater.”

26. Liz Carpenter,;Writer And Feminist

·         “Instead of looking at life as a narrowing funnel, we can see it ever widening to choose the things we want to do, to take the wisdom we’ve learned and create something.”

27. Erica Jong; American Author And Teacher

·         “Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow that talent to the…. place where it leads.”

28. Liz Smith; American Gossip Columnist

·         “Begin somewhere; you cannot build a reputation on what you intend to do.”

29. Anita Roddick; Founder of The Body Shop

·         “If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito.”

30. Sonia Choquette; Author, Storyteller, Vibrational Healer

·         “Your own words are the bricks and mortar of the dreams you want to realize. Your words are the greatest power you have. The words you choose and their use establish the life you experience.”

31. Diana Ross;  American Singer And Actress

I love quotes to empower and inspire women that come from women who really have gone after their dreams.

·         “You can’t just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream; you’ve got to get out there and make it happen for yourself.”

32. Helen Keller;  American Author And Political Activist

·         “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

33. Tammy Cravit; Writer

·         “Worrying is all about the illusion of control. When you worry, you are expending energy, and it feels like you are doing something… When you stop worrying, you free up energy that can be used more productively.”

34. Margaret Young; American Singer

·         “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.”

35. Ella Fitzgerald;  American Jazz And Song Vocalist

·         “Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”

36. Indira Gandhi; Indian Politician

·         “My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people: those who do the work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group; there was much less competition.”

37. Marian Wright Edelman; American Children’s Rights Activist

·         “Never work just for money or for power. They won’t save your soul or help you sleep at night.”

38. Mia Hamm; Retired American Soccer Player

·         “So celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.”

39. Margaret Thatcher; Former Conservative Prime Minister of The UK

·         “If you just set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.”

40. Barbara De Angelis; American Relationship And Personal Growth Adviser

·         “Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.”

41. Oprah Winfrey; American Media Proprietor, Talk Show Host, Philanthropist

It’s no surprise that Oprah has one of the quotes to empower and inspire women.

·         “If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full-speed ahead without stopping for water, you lose momentum to finish the race.”

42. Wynonna Judd;  Country Music Singer

·         “I learned again that the mind-body-spirit connection has to be in balance.”

43. Bette Midler;  Singer, ActRESS, And Comedian

·         “I always try to balance the light with the heavy: a few tears of human spirit in with the sequins and the fringes.”

44. Jennifer Aniston; ActrESS

·                  “The greater your capacity to love, the greater is your capacity to feel the pain.”

45. Lily Tomlin;  American Actress

·         “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.”

46. Michelle Obama;  First African-American First Lady of The United States of America

·         “Women in particular need to keep an eye on their physical and mental health, because if we’re scurrying to and from appointments and errands, we don’t have a lot of time to take care of ourselves. We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to-do’ list.”

47. MARY KAY ASH; FOUNDER OF MARY KAY COSMETICS

·         “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.”

 

48. MARIE BEYON RAY; AUTHOR

·         “Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand – and melting like a snowflake.”

49. Diane Mariechild;  Author of Mother Wit And Inner Dance

·                  “A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.”

50. Anna Quindlen; American Author

This one of my favorite quotes to empower and inspire women

·         “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

51. MAYA ANGELOU; AUTHOR AND POET

·         “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”  as well as  “I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”

52. candice casrpenter; founder of Ivillage.com

·         “If you are committed to creating value and if you aren’t afraid of hard times; obstacles become utterly unimportant. A nuisance perhaps; but with no real power. The world respects creation; people will get out of your way.”

53. ELAINE MAXWELL; AUTHOR

·         “My will shall shape the future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no one’s doing but my own. I am the force. I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice. My responsibility. Win or lose; only I hold the key to my destiny.”

54. BARBARA WALTERS, BROADCAST JOURNALIST AND AUTHOR

·         “Most of us have trouble juggling. The woman who says she doesn’t is someone whom I admire but have never met.”

55. COCO CHANEL;  FOUNDER OF CHANEL

·         “How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.”

 

56. ANNE MCKEVITT;  ENTREPRENEUR, TV PERSONALITY, AUTHOR AND PHILANTHROPIST

·         “Successful people understand that you don’t need to make things complicated.”

57. PHYLLIS BOTTOME; NOVELIST AND SHORT STORY WRITER

·         “There are two ways of meeting difficulties. You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.”

58. EMILY DICKINSON; POET

·         “Hope is a thing with feathers / That perches in the soul, / And sings the tune without words / And never stops at all.”

59. RITA MAE BROWN; AUTHOR AND SCREENWRITER

·         “I believe you are your work. Don’t trade the stuff of your life, time, for nothing more than dollars. That’s a rotten bargain.”

60. BILLIE BURKE; ACTRESS

·         “Age is something that doesn’t matter, unless you are a cheese.”

61. MADONNA; RECORDING ARTIST, ACTRESS AND ENTREPRENEUR

·         “A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.”

62. SARAH BAN BRETHNACH; AUTHOR

·         “What if you began to expect the best from any situation? Isn’t it possible that you could write new chapters in your life with happy endings? Suspend your disbelief? Take a leap of faith? After all, what have you got to lose but misery and lack?” 

63. GILDA RADNER; ACTRESS AND COMEDIAN

·         “I always wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.”

64. MARIANNE WILLIAMSON; SPIRITUAL ACTIVIST, AUTHOR, LECTURER

·         “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? […] Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. […] It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

65. CHRISTINA ROSSETTI; AUTHOR

·         “Can anything be sadder than work left unfinished? Yes; work never begun.”

66. EILEEN FISHER; FASHION DESIGNER

·         “Life-fulfilling work is never about the money – when you feel true passion for something, you instinctively find ways to nurture it.”

67. BILLIE JEAN KING; FORMER PROFESSIONAL TENNIS PLAYER

·         “Be bold. If you’re going to make an error, make a doozey, and don’t be afraid to hit the ball.”

68. HARRIET BRAIKER; AUTHOR AND STRESS MANAGEMENT

·         “Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing.”

69. HARRIET BEECHER STOWE; WRITER

·         “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

70. MAE WEST; ACTRESS, PLAYWRIGHT, SCREENWRITER

·         “You only live once but if you do it right, once is enough.”

71. SUZE ORMAN; FINANCIAL ADVISTOR, AUTHOR, MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER

·         “In all realms of life it takes courage to stretch your limits, express your power, and fulfill your potential.”

72. STELLA MCCARTNEY; FASHION DESIGNER

·         “Now, get out there and kick ass!” 

73. SARAH SUSANKA; ARCHITECT AND AUTHOR

·         “Once you make the unequivocal internal commitment to do something – when you absolutely know this is the time and the place to act – the world around you will shift in all sorts of apparently miraculous ways to make it happen.”

74. MERYL STREEP; ACTRESS

·         “Start by starting.”

75. SISTER MARY CORITA KENT

·         “Love the moment, and the energy of that moment will spread beyond all boundaries.”

76. JULIA SOU; ACTRESS

·         “If you are never scared, embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take chances.”

 

77. ANNA QUINDLEN; AMERICAN AUTHOR, JOURNALIST & COLUMNIST

·         “If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”

78. BEVERLY SILLS; AMERICAN OPERATIC SOPRANO

·         “You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.”

79. JEAN NIDETCH; CO-FOUNDER OF WEIGHT WATCHERS ORG.

·         “It’s choice – not chance – that determines your destiny.”

 

80. ERMA BOMBECK; AMERICAN HUMOURIST & AUTHOR

·         “If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it”

81. AMELIA EARHART; AMERICAN AVIATION PIONEER AND AUTHOR

·         “The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”

82. ELIZABETH KUBLER-ROSS; SWISS PSYCHIATRIST, AUTHOR AND PIONEER OF NEAR-DEATH STUDIES  (one of my Favorite writers.  I use her principles in my work)

·         “It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had.”

83. KATHERINE HEPBURN; HEADSTRONG ACTRESS

·         “If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.”

84. MARCI SHIMOFF; AUTHOR & TRANSFORMATIONAL EXPERT

·         “When you forgive, you heal your own anger and hurt and are able to let love lead again. It’s like spring cleaning for your heart”

85. DIANE ACKERMAN; AMERICAN AUTHOR, POET & NATURALIST

·         “I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.”

86. ETHYL BARRYMORE; ACTRESS

·         “You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself” 

87. SALLY BERGER

·         “The secret of getting ahead is getting started”

88. CHARLOTTE WHITTON; SOCIAL WORKER, CANADIAN FEMINIST & FORMER MAYOR OF OTTAWA

·         “Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult.”

89. DIANE MARIECHILD; AUTHOR, LECTURER

·         “A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.”

90. SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR; FRENCH WRITER, EXISTENTIALIST PHILOSOPHER

·         “One is not born a woman, one becomes one.”

91. ELIZABETH CADY STANTON; WOMEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVIST

·         “The best protection any woman can have … is courage.”

92. ROSALIND RUSSELL; ACTRESS

·         “Taking joy in living is a woman’s best cosmetic.”

93. C. JOYBELL C.; PHILOSOPHICAL WRITER

“The strength of a woman is not measured by the impact that all her hardships in life have had on her; but the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.” 

94. LAURIE STAVOE HARM

·         “There is a secret in our culture, And it’s not that childbirth is painful, It’s that women are strong.”

95. JENNIFER LOVE HEWITT; ACTRESS

·         “A world without men would consist of a bunch of fat, happy women with no crime.”

96. CASSANDRA DUFFY; REGULAR GAL

·         “I'd rather be thought of as smart, capable, strong, and compassionate than beautiful. Those things all persist long after beauty fades.”

97. ROSA PARKS; AFRICAN-AMERICAN CIVIL RIGHTS ACTIVIST

·         "I would like to be remembered as a person who wanted to be free....so other people would be also free"

98. BELL HOOKS; AUTHOR

·         “The one person who will never leave us, whom we will never lose, is ourself. Learning to love our female selves is where our search for love must begin.”

99. MARILYN MONROE; ACTRESS

·         “Dogs never bite me.  Just humans."

100. ARLENE DICKINSON; CANADIAN ENTREPRENEUR & CO-HOST OF “THE DRAGON’S DEN”

·         “It’s not about being the best. It’s about doing your best.”