Dissing Yourself is Not Being Your Own Best Friend

 

We often speak to ourselves in mean, condescending and ridiculing ways.  We say things like, “You’re so stupid’, “No wonder no one listens to me”, “I’ll never be happy”, and “I hate myself”!  If you stopped to listen to your negative inner voice you’d find that it doesn’t think much of you.  But the crux of the matter is that it’s YOU that feels this way.  Even if you shoot the blame out to others, like your Partner, your Parents, your Boss, your Friend, it doesn’t solve the problem.  It may bring you some relief in the short run but in the long run, the toxicity remains.

Our inner voice is only echoing our inner truth, that which we believe about ourselves.  And that voice is reaching up from the depths of your own subconscious mind that is the protector of your beliefs without judgment!  It doesn’t sit there and evaluate what it brings to your consciousness because that’s not its job.  That job is to protect what you believe with powerful and ruthless efficiency.

Stopping to listen is an opportunity to ask yourself, “Is that REALLY my truth?”  Or, ask yourself, “Would I say this to my best Friend about her?”  And here can begin an amazing journey to re-write the script that is playing within you.  It is only in recognizing what is behind those hurtful words that you can to choose again what you feel about yourself. 

Write down these self depreciating strings of cruel words about yourself and then immediately write the positive opposite.  Read it out loud!!  Even if it doesn’t feel like your truth, fake it till you make it!  You’ve begun the process of feeding your mind something good and it does listen.  Simply observing can bring your self talk topics to the forefront.  Sometimes “I’m so stupid” can pass into and out of your mind so quickly you miss it completely.  By being aware of it you catch it more often and can do something about it. 

Self Healing happens! Self Healing isn’t a gift given to a select few. It is an intrinsic ability we all have. It’s not magic, a miracle or a phenomenon. It’s about digging deep and listening to your heart and intuition. It’s about opening and connecting with yourself to find the answers about why you think, feel and act the way you do. It’s about changing your consciousness and asking yourself questions about not what you do or how you do it, but why you do it!  You know WHAT you do and HOW you do it. But the why can seem elusive.

Seek help and you shall find it.  Explore through meditation, journaling, hypnotherapy, and any other source of information that can teach you about the nature of your feeling mind, your Subconscious Mind and how to coach it to be a positive speaking best Friend.