Mind-body principles in healing self-sabotaging beliefs. Blogger Rosa Livingstone is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, Mind Coach, Author of "Self-Sabotage: The Art of Screwing Up' and Certified Instructor. Rosa offers the resources to overcome fear and move toward living the life you want, using all that is inherently amazing about you.
Wednesday, 17 April 2013
Dissing Yourself is Not Being Your Own Best Friend
We often speak to ourselves in mean, condescending
ridiculing ways.We say things like,
“You’re so stupid’, “No wonder no one listens to me”, “I’ll never be happy”, and
“I hate myself”!If you stopped to
listen to your negative inner voice you’d find that it doesn’t think much of
you.But the crux of the matter is that
it’s YOU that feels this way.Even if
you shoot the blame out to others, like your Partner, your Parents, your Boss,
your Friend, it doesn’t solve the problem.It may bring you some relief in the short run but in the long run, the
Our inner voice is only echoing our inner truth,
that which we believe about ourselves.And that voice is reaching up from the depths of your own subconscious
mind that is the protector of your beliefs without judgment!It doesn’t sit there and evaluate what it
brings to your consciousness because that’s not its job.That
job is to protect what you believe with powerful and ruthless efficiency.
to listen is an opportunity to ask yourself, “Is that REALLY my truth?”Or, ask yourself, “Would I say this to my
best Friend about her?”And here can
begin an amazing journey to re-write the script that is playing within
you.It is only in recognizing what is
behind those hurtful words that you can to choose again what you feel about
down these self depreciating strings of cruel words about yourself and then
immediately write the positive opposite.Read it out loud!!Even if it
doesn’t feel like your truth, fake it till you make it!You’ve begun the process of feeding your mind
something good and it does listen.Simply observing can bring your self talk topics to the forefront.Sometimes “I’m so stupid” can pass into and
out of your mind so quickly you miss it completely.By being aware of it you catch it more often
and can do something about it.
Self Healing happens! Self Healing
isn’t a gift given to a select few. It is an intrinsic ability we all have.
It’s not magic, a miracle or a phenomenon. It’s about digging deep and
listening to your heart and intuition. It’s about opening and connecting with
yourself to find the answers about why you think, feel and act the way
you do. It’s about changing your consciousness and asking yourself questions about not
what you do or how you do it, but why you do it!You know WHAT you do and HOW you do it. But
the why can seem elusive.
Seek help and you shall find it.Explore through meditation, journaling, hypnotherapy,
and any other source of information that can teach you about the nature of your
feeling mind, your Subconscious Mind and how to coach it to be a positive
speaking best Friend.